Monday, October 22, 2012

Adjusting

It's so crazy to me how different it has been going from 1 child to 2. The transition from 0 to 1 for us was really rough. If you read back through some of my posts from when Isis was first born, you'll find that it was incredibly emotionally draining. I didn't know how to deal with the emotions, the hormones, the lack of sleep and the fears. It took me at least 2 months to really work through some of that and probably the first 6 months before I felt like I was really back to myself again.

This time, it has been completely different. I think part of it is knowing what to expect. It's also helpful when your labor is a total of 4-6 hours rather than 21. I didn't start Lux's life with a huge sleep deficit just from labor. It's also different because I have lots of tools in my belt to figure out how to adjust to Lux's needs and personality. I know what I tried with Isis and I have been able to try those things with Lux and find what works. It was a little scary at first because I had Isis and I really knew Isis. I didn't know Lux yet. She has her own things that comfort her and her own personality in terms of eating and sleeping. So it was scary knowing that I needed to take the time to learn all of her specifics.

Luckily this time, it's been easier to adjust and to figure out those things for her. For one, she's a lot more cuddly and easily comforted than Isis was. It's easier to find something that makes her feel better and sleep well. She's a little easier to read. It's also interesting how it feels to add a second child rather than a first. With Isis, it was like she became our entire world and if she had a bad day, I had a bad day. If she didn't sleep, I was super worried about it and upset. If she was crying, I had a hard time dealing with it. This time, I don't have the luxury of wrapping my whole world around Lux. She's had to come in to the family we've already established and it's been fun to just see how she is incorporated to what we already had. Isis loves interacting with her and Lewis and I both love getting one-on-one time with her. It's good that I can't just focus on her because if she has a bad day, we have to just keep going because we have Isis and we have a lot more to think about. There are times I have to cater to Isis and times I have to cater to Lux. And honestly, that's a relief rather than a stress. 

As someone who thrives under a routine and who has reaped the benefits of a consistent daily routine with one child, it's also strange to be back into that mindset. Isis' daily schedule is so simple now that I hadn't really even thought about it for about a year. It's been the same. But the first year to 18 months of her life, I was thinking about her routine all the time. I'm back there with Lux. What's neat about that is that because we already function under a routine, Lux has just naturally fallen into that with us. We have a consistent waketime with Isis and a consistent bedtime. Lux already has the same thing. Therefore, at 10 days old, we already have days that look about the same. I'm going to talk more about that in a later post. 

Right now, I just wanted to share how positive it has been to add another member to our family! I am loving it and excited to be off for 12 weeks to really get to know Lux and get her set up in our family!

1 comment:

Jennifer said...

so glad you are getting to take 12 weeks off too!! i can't imagine already being back to work!

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